The Girlfriend Code

22. Inspired by that last question: Take Care of You

You’re important. Make sure you’re happy. Not to imply the last anon isn’t. It just reminded me that I don’t always talk about the YOU in the relationship, I guess because I always think it’s assumed that you look out for yourself in a relationship. If you’re happy, keep at it. Or work at it, if there are some shortcomings, but ultimately. When it comes down to it. If you’re not liking where it’s at, there’s always millions of fish in the sea!

3 months ago

If your boy friend gets mad easily. How do you control what you say or joke to make him not made anymore? Anonymous

Wow, I’ve never gotten a question before. Almost forgot about this blog!

I think it’s important to be with someone you can be comfortable around, and not act like you’re walking on egg shells around them. You shouldn’t have to always watch yourself. Tempers are hard to deal with. But, as long as his temper isn’t harmful, or dangerous in any way, a good way to diffuse his temper is to maybe change the subject. Ask about his day, talk about something he might have mentioned before. Make plans for something to do. Talk about something you know always cheers him up, or makes him happy. But keep in mind that if his temper starts to get out of hand in any way, you have a commitment to yourself and your safety before anything else.

Hope that helps at least a little bit!

21. (Submission) Don’t expect him to pay for EVERYTHING

I know too many good guys who end up going out with a potential or current Girlfriend and they pause at a top they love, sigh and say “wow this is soooo cute! but I don’t have the money for it.” looks to guy and flutters lashes. Now cause he’s a nice guy he pulls out his wallet to see her smile, but as soon as his cash runs low or he CAN’T pull out his wallet she sulks and moans.
Yes theirs the romantic or chivalrous offer to pay but don’t expect him to do it for EVERYTHING.

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11 months ago

20. No Joint Facebook Accounts

Really? REALLY?

There are couples that share a Facebook account?

This is more married couples, I guess, but REALLY?

I saw one, and I was in awe.

Before, I had only heard of them in myth, but they do in fact exist.

So, when you’re married, you’re no longer separate beings? You are one entity?

I’m not a fan of the whole, one person completing you thing.

I believe we’re all whole, and the people we love are embellishments. I don’t mean to say they’re accessories, just that they make us into something else. Something a bit more. It’s not completing, it’s adding to.

As a couple, I doubt you have ALL the same friends, all the same interests. A joint Facebook account seems like “I don’t trust my husband not to flirt with his old girlfriends on Facebook, so now we share a password”

Maybe that’s just me.

But if this were you, well YOU’D be writing this, now wouldn’t you?

Feel like teaching the world a lesson?

You know what to do!

1 year ago

19. No Facebook Hacking

Oh, he left his Facebook on? Don’t be a fucking idiot. Kindly log him off.

There is NO need for:
“I love my girlfriend”
“My girlfriend is so pretty”
Or any of that insecure, boasty shit.

It’s not cute, it’s stupid.

Make a deal with a friend. Have them slap you if you ever do it. Slap you hard.

Make sure it leaves a mark.

So you remember that it’s not cute. Just really. Really. Dumb.

18. No “X amount of things you should know about Girls / Guys” Lists

For example:

“Pick her up like in the Notebook and kiss her” “Sit on top of her and tell her how much you lover her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while sitting on her” “take her for long walks at night” ”call or text her every night to wish her sweet dreams” and so on.

We’ve all seen them, we’ve all read them. And they’re great… if you’re a disney princess.

These are not RULES for your relationship, you don’t live in a fairytale and he is definitely not going to abide by ALL of them. Accept that he’s a sweetheart in his own way, not in the way you expect him to be.

17. You are NOT Dating Yet!

No assuming that you’re boyfriend and girlfriend after one date. Even if you’ve kissed. We don’t care if it was magical, unless you’ve discussed it, or both inferred that this is an exclusive relationship between the two of you, you are merely seeing each other. Testing the waters to see if you mesh, not immediately and indefinitely attached to one another. If you really want to have that exclusive relationship, but are unsure of what you are, you’re going to have to have ‘the talk’, no matter how painful it may be.

16. No Bitching Without Purpose

If you’re having a talk or argument, talk about the problem. Don’t go throwing his hygiene in there, or cussing to make your point, because it won’t work. Have an end that you would like to work towards, and focus on that, or nothing will be solved and you’ve just wasted each other’s time.

15. No Magazine Quizzes

We’ve all taken at least one or two, but avoid taking the ‘relationship health’ ones. Even if you’re joking, you may not like the answer you get. Every relationship is different, so it’s not like they can really generalise. If you have to, HAVE to take the quiz, don’t tell him the results. He doesn’t believe in the mumbo jumbo of Cosmo and neither should you.